Did you know that when you touch another living being, a multitude of positive healing effects take place? From the release of natural pain relief hormones, to the soothing of depression, anxiety, and of course, loneliness. Whether you are caressing your animal companion, your child, partner, a friend, or someone you've just met, the power of physical connection is undeniable.
Here at Soul Fire, we are constantly promoting ways to get together in the physical realm. We love that our daily classes are here in the studio versus online (nothing wrong with online learning, of course!) as it gives us the opportunity to see you, speak with you, listen to you, and practice with the energy you emit - just by being here in there space with us.
Earlier this month, Gosia and I had the fabulous pleasure of offering the Power of Touch workshop. In it, we explored the vast realms of connecting with ourselves through simple acts of self care (massage), connecting on an energetic level with another person (new or familiar) through eye contact, and THEN to the sweet, wild and tender experience of sharing the same physical space with another person through partner massage. The experience was magical. And while there is always love and respect for those who are exercising their right to personal space through healthy boundaries, when one permits another into their space, feeling safe and grounded can build bonds of deep connection and trust that can last a lifetime.
In many cultures, even small gestures of touch help to foster a connection that makes us feel more loved, appreciated, welcomed, and valued. From a pat on the shoulder that accompanies a burst of laughter, a high-five to share a success, to a side-hug that comforts and encourages us when we feel less-than, these are all forms of communication, and communication is how we humans (just like other animals) create bonds, agreements, and ultimately our survival network.
As you go about your day today, just take note of how much contact you have with others - perhaps start with the non-physical forms such as eye-contact, or a smile - and notice how this form of communication informs how you feel throughout the day. Next, you can take note of how much physical contact you give or receive throughout the day. Any handshakes? Any hugs? Any hand holding? You can decide if this level of physical interaction is acceptable for you right now, or whether you feel you need more/less.
As we build this vibrant community of likeminded people here at Soul Fire, we understand the importance of establishing healthy boundaries. Still, we also value the human need for physical connection. So, if you’re feeling ready to be with others (especially as we come out of Winter hibernation mode) see how it feels to take a class with a room full of others, moving and breathing together. Allow yourself to extend a hand to pass the mat spray, a friendly handshake, give a smile or wave, and if it feels appropriate, perhaps ask someone if they’d like a hug after a nice conversation.
Communication is all about giving and receiving. Yet, while the intention may be positive, just remember that it is a two-way interaction. As you interact with others in a more intimate public space like a yoga studio, there are many levels of communication that will be appropriate in any given circumstance. Let your heart guide you, listen to the energy of another, tune-in to what their body language is communicating with you, whether it is receptive or closed that day.
Every day is different, and we know how it feels when we do or don’t want some personal connection. Let the studio be your community home, allow yourself and others to explore the delicate dance it can be to share this life with other living beings. It’s a wonderful journey, and we are here to support one another through the highs and lows. Are you open to some physical connection today? Or is a smile and eye contact just about enough? It’s all perfect. Just make sure you are listening to what your heart craves and don’t be afraid to ask for (or offer) what you need to feel more connected with the world around you.
